Royal College of General Practitioners - Online Learning Environment

I imagine that you are here because something didn’t go your way. You probably met each other online, texted him and he didn’t text you back or his answer was very short. You are not really sure about his intentions or if he is even interested. You feel like you might have messed things up, and all you want to do is get his attention back! I am a guy that wants you to WIN in the relationship game. I apologize in advance for being rough but stick with me!

Curb your impatience 

This is advice I give both men and women in the area of texting. Patience is a hell of a virtue and it shows that you have emotional maturity. When texting a guy I know it is really frustrating when he doesn’t take the situation with as much severity. To win, you need to show some self-restraint and understand that he may not consider texting as important a medium as you do. Rather match his interest, and hold back from texting him!

Text back only when he does

Ties right into the above, you need to let him take the lead here. You need to set the stage for the type of relationship you would like to have with him later. If you are the one constantly texting him and showing need, this will continue into whatever relationship you create with him. (This means you will be the one to ask him out, he won’t do it ever) Make sure you ONLY text when he does and it wouldn’t hurt to forget to text back every once in a while. 

Never chase a guy over text 

Probably the biggest mistake ladies make not only with texting guys but in creating relationships with them. Many kick and fight against this concept but have you honestly ever had this work out? Have you ever been assertive with a guy and had him reciprocate your interest? The reason why is because this is the MALE role not the female. If you are the one chasing him over text or in person he sits back and lets you do all the work, then he does his best to sleep with you and disappears shortly after. Don’t do this, don’t chase him over text or any other medium. In my book TextAppeal, I will teach you a few strategies to encourage him to chase you, it really isn’t that hard since men will naturally do this if you encourage it in the right way. (If you don’t like this advice take a second to really think about it, did it ever really work to chase him, ever??)

Don’t allow texting sex talk

You know how men start sexting dirty right away, or look for some lame excuse to text something nasty? This is because men need to filter women, is she sex material or relationship material? If you respond overly soon with sexual texting, guess which category you will fall into. I imagine if you are reading this you want to be considered relationship material NOT sex material. This is why you need to ignore or even get upset with his constant sexual pushing. Resisting in this area does two positive things: you are taken more seriously and pushed into the relationship category AND believe it or not sexual tension is built simply by resisting it. So even if you want to rip his clothes off and devour every sweaty inch of him, error on the side of caution! and never virtually flash your boobs. There are so many better things that you can be doing to increase the attraction, and using sex is bound to backfire.

Texting is a tool

Most men do not see texting as entertainment, of course men enjoy getting to know a woman but so often he is clueless that you are the one he needs to get to know. If he is texting you back one-word answers or not answering, it is possible he either hates texting or really isn’t that interested. This is where you need to make him interested! 

Guys are fixers

This ties into the one above, guys don’t gossip (Well not as much). They don’t process information the same way that women do. A guy isn’t nearly as interested when you text about your boss as your friend might be. Most men see your processing of information as something he needs to change to win your approval. Don’t confuse him and yourself by texting him things that he will feel required to fix.

Stop IYHS

In your head syndrome, is without a doubt the biggest mental gap that men and women possess. (Once again I apologize for my bluntness) You think this guy is the one? You just met him a few days ago yet you have wrapped a huge fantasy around him? He rarely texts you back, he has a girlfriend but for some reason you cant see this. IYHS is a deal breakerwhen texting guys. He will see pretty quickly that you have created a fantasy around him that he will only put up with until he can sleep with you. Then he will disappear. This is one of the failings of texting since your communication is really really brief and you must fill in the gaps of his thinking with yours. PLEASE, Let him prove to you that he is madly in love, don’t ever assume it!